Date Night

 November 5, 2022

98 days

Last night was FRI-YAY evening! Typically, I would have been biting at the bit to go out because I could drink!  Even worse, I would have already been drinking before my husband got home from work...trying to get my evening started!  

Last night, was a first of many future DATE NIGHTS to come, I hope. I was starving by 3:00pm.  I had not eaten lunch or anything.  Once again, hunger typically is a trigger for me, and this afternoon was no different.  Due to my stronger awareness of these types of situations, rather than bitch at my husband about where we were going to go, I actually made a quick dinner.  Nothing special, I promise, but we were both very hungry by the time it was done and willing to eat it! LOL! 

Despite my history with alcohol, as I have mentioned previously, I still like to enjoy some good entertainment. I have been begging to go listen to country music for the past few weeks. With that being said, after our dinner at home, James offered to take me out. I was actually willing to go even though there wasn't alcohol involved. I can't tell you what a huge accomplishment this is! 

We stopped at one of my favorite little restaurants on the way.  Sebastian Saltwater...sooooo delicious!  James had a drink at the bar, and I decided to get their cheesecake!  It is so yummy, if you ever get a chance to stop there!!! I told James while we were there, it is nice to be able to enjoy a really nice dessert, rather than over consuming alcoholic beverages, because I actually take the time to savor a yummy dessert. In the past, drinking was always a beeline towards an invisible dead end for me.  

After dessert, we decided to go listen to a band at Captain Hiram's.  It was the Tom Jackson Band.  James and I actually enjoyed the time immensely.  I was able to enjoy the evening, rather than worry about my drinking escapades.  We were able to come home safely, and I actually got to be the DD for the night!  James was thoroughly able to enjoy himself, without worrying about me, for once.  I think at this point, the guy totally deserves a night out on me! We headed home, but our night was still not over.

Around 11pm, we got a call from Reina, and she needed us.  The details of why aren't really necessary, but the fact that I was able to drive and keep my self in check, as well as James, made for a calmer evening.  In the past, I would have reacted with pure hysteria and sent James to do the dirty work, because I didn't want to deal with the situation, or I would have been too busy drinking. Usually, the latter. 

In the end, I had a great evening with my hubby!  My daughter needed both of us, and we were able to be there in full mental capacity.  One NOT being pulled by alcohol, and the other NOT being pulled by the stress the alcohol causes.  I realized that, once again, the significance of my drinking, prior to sobriety, had been impacting all aspects of everyone's life, not just mine. It was nice to finally be fully coherent for an evening...despite whatever life threw at us!


Pic:

Tom Jackson Band on stage at Captain Hiram's

(Ray Fredell in the blue shirt! LOL!)




 

              

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  1. AnonymousNovember 5, 2022 at 8:03 AM

    So happy and proud of you! Please continue on your present path. Love ya, Cuz!

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